All of us want to be recognized by others, and be appreciated by them. So the problem becomes what character traits are most appealing. In fact we are persuaded to believe that some traits are “better”, for instance, kind, generous and persistent. Then we are lack of confidence—we are not qualified good people at all! Afterward, endless “training” and “improvement” fills up our lives. That is, we have to behave “better” and “correct” our characters according to these “commonly recognized features”. Life appears miserable, and we are always in low spirit because we are not perfect.
The despairing experiment on ourselves leads to nowhere but confusion. Going through the suffering of “transformation”, we are totally tired and lost. Perhaps there is a lot of acquaintances become our friends, but the more friends we have, the more confused we feel. Looking at the reflection in the mirror, a scaring idea that “who’s that” may be developed in our minds. We rejected the former one who we were, and put enormous effort in changing ourselves, in order to achieve a goal which is set by others. Is it worth?
Appealing personality can be a solid foundation for success, but we can absolutely make impressive accomplishments relying on the one who we are right now. Distinct personalities paint the world with different stunning colors. Each personality has its advantages, so what we shall be conscious is how to make fully use of these advantages, instead of focusing on the disadvantages. After a period of time, we will be pleased to witness that we can be accepted and appreciated if we dare to be the one who we are.
Being unsatisfied with ourselves is ok, but we shall never blame ourselves because of our personalities. They are not merely our features, for they are priceless treasure.
i agree that sometimes when you seem to have more friends, you may feel more lonely and you may get confused about all the situations. but, having some so called good personalities may be still be helpful
ReplyDeleteEveryone is priceless because everyone is an independent individual with various kinds of characters. Everyone wants to be perfect but this is just a fancy dream. So I think it is essential for us to be grateful of ourselves.
ReplyDeleteIf you are with those charactors- kind, generous, persistent, you are indead a good man. While it does not mean that you are bad if you are not with these personalities. We cannot assume everyone is the same; if so, the world will be boring. Instead, only when there are varies of personalities in the world, it bacomes interesting. And "good" include a lot of things. Even you are not kind or generals, you can be a good man!
ReplyDeleteI think we can try to do some changes to be the one we want to be, as long as we do not lose ourselves. Usually when you want to be a kind of person you can be like that. We can change ourselves.
ReplyDeleteI couldn't agree more. Everyone is different and we cannot be someone good but not ourselves. There are no fixed characteristics for good and successful people neither are for bad and unsuccessful. As long as as we follow our hearts to do right things, success will come to us.
ReplyDeleteThough we should try to change our personalities sometimes, we should not always change ourselves. Each of us is unique, not only because our appearances are different, our personalities are also different. It is not necessary for us to imitate others, we should be ourselves and deal things with our own ideas.
ReplyDeleteWhile discussing about personality, you need to remember that it is different from your character. Personality is just the tip of the iceberg. It is your character that makes you the person you are.
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