Six days ago when we start our topic endangered species, we discussed about the divorce. On the lesson one, I did want to say my own point about the divorce since I saw some terrible marriage on TV with parents bearing each other only because of their children, which I cannot understand at all. Here, I mean those parents who fail to pretend to create a harmonious family for their children.
First, a child does not mean love forever. I do not deny that child is the combination of the love between parents. And some people regard their children as the evidence of love and hope this kind of love could stay long.But child did not mean the existence of love anyway except the special period of time in my opinion. Since nobody could predict the future , how could control what would happen such like the lack of love between their parents? Then, a terrible relationship is more harmful to children. I do not agree that single parent could always bring negative effects. And I totally insist that it is more helpful for the growth of children with single parent than necessary to create the complete family for them. The endless quarrel is totally devil which leads children to suffer much.
Maybe some people would say it is selfish if the parents divorce without thinking about their children. it is true that human did be selfish somehow. However, when people meet such situation, I think it is far from selfish because everyone has right to pursue their ideal life and should do so without hesitation.
these are all my thoughts. What is yours?
More or less, separation indeed have negative effect on children. However some parents who remain their marriage only because their child do not quarrel, they do not talk to each other.
ReplyDeleteWe have to admit that the divorce of parents really has some bad impacts on the children. However, if parents maintain the marriage just because of the children, it will also bring some or even more effects. I believe that everyone wants to live in a real life including children.
ReplyDeleteI think many parents will take their children into consideration before divorce, and this is the fact that many people think that single-parent children may be strange even abnormal. If there is a single-parent child live among some such people, this kind of people will more or less look down upon the single-parent child. This may have bad effects on the child and the probability should not be ignored.
ReplyDeleteDear Ding Yi
ReplyDeleteChildren in single-parent families are NOT abnormal though they may possibly suffer from a loss of self-esteem/self-confidence. However, if there are uncles or adult-male figures in the same household taking on the role of a 'substitute father', then these children can grow up as confident as other children in a two-parent family.
Wilson