Thursday, February 17, 2011
Five ‘C’s of love
There are five popular 'C's considered as the basis of love—car, credit card, cash and condo. Is it true? I do not think so. True love is pure and is never built on material foundations. I prefer another five 'C's of love—compatibility, chemistry, characteristic, common version and community.
Firstly, two people shall have many things in common, which equals to compatibility. Certainly, there are differences between two unique persons, but they should have more similarities than differences. In the bank of love, differences can be compared to loan you taken from the bank, while similarities are compared to your bank account. If you lend more money than what in your account, you will go bankrupt sooner or later. Therefore, people should 'deposit' more similarities in the bank of love to make up for the differences.
Chemistry means the special connection you feel with the other. He or she may not be shining as the movie star, but you feel comfortable staying with the person. As the saying goes, beauty is in the eyes of love.
Besides, characteristics can decide if the person suits you. Usually a couple have similar characteristics. For example, suppose an active girl who likes parties very much has a boyfriend who prefers peace. Maybe they can tolerate the difference at the beginning, but as time goes on, she would think he is rather boring or he could not stand her any more, either. However, it is still possible that the characteristics of a couple are quite different, because they can complement each other.
Next is common version, including the same value of things and the same pursuit in whole life. Maybe they are both Christians and devote themselves to god, so they can support each other on this way; maybe they both have a dream to travel around the world, so they can fulfil their dream together.
Last but not least, community can give person all-round view of the other. When a couple stays alone, he or she may behave carefully and hide their true personalities. However, in a community, you can know a person better through his or her attitude to friends and families. Besides, you can consult people who are experienced or know both of you well in the community. People need advice, because love may blind them.
In conclusion, the solid foundation of love is built by five "C"s together—compatibility, chemistry, characteristics, common version and community.
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Wonderful! Is the two kinds of 5'C" thought of by yourself? You are so intelligent! I don't know what to say, but the idea is so good! Maybe you can publish it!
ReplyDeleteAs for me, love is quite simple. I won't think too much as long as we feel comfortable being with each other. Anyway, I think your 5"C" ideas are quite realistic. However, compatibility and characteristics seem to be the same main point. The similarity or differences in characteristics can be part of the compatibility. What do you think about it?
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ReplyDeleteI enjoyed reading this blog entry which brought back some long forgotten memories and gave me some food for thought.
Admittedly, some of the thoughts expressed by you are rather idealistic. Nonetheless they are important to you and I won't want to deny you the 'joy', coupled with lots of angst of searching for your 'true love'.
Having lived more than half a century on this earth, to summarise, my experience where matters of the heart are concerned, bears resemblance to the thought expressed by Menglan and that is, 'true love' is actually a very simple yet profound phenomenon...you just want to be with this special someone all the time.
Happy searching!
I'm very impressed of your professional idea of 5 Cs. However, i don't think i will judge love in that way. In my opinion, love is just about a kind of feeling and it does not even have got some reasons. Whatever, i think you have strongly proved that girls can be very very logical.
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